How do you respond to someone saying they want to remain friends when the connection you experienced with said person was anything but friendly?
I know that I have written before about being madly in love and finding the other piece to my soul and I still stand behind the words/feelings/everything I experienced but this time, well this time it was completely different.
The kind of different where when you look back on the timeline you go what.. what the serious fuck? How were those intense feelings felt in such a short time?
I mean.. what I felt with him was not really describable.
But it made me believe in so many things.
It came at the most unexpected time.
It was impulsive in almost everything, probably a huge factor in the way that our story ended, we had.
I will still never forget the day we met. It felt like a million days in one.
I don’t even want to talk about it now actually because anything that has to do with him makes me feel things, the most unsettling feeling starts in my core and I have to immediately shut down said thought/feeling/moment because it is so fucking easy to get lost in the connection we have.
I have never connected with someone this way before. Ever. And it was instant.
We thrived off of each other.
Whatever we had was strongest when we were together. Even if that was just sitting there next to one another.
And that doesn’t even begin to describe the connect we had physically, and not just sexually, but when he touched me I felt alive. My skin tingled and my breath stopped, over and over again as his hands and fingers roamed over my body. I can say without a doubt it is absolutely one of my favorite things ever!!
But a lot of shit happened.
Life shit on us.
was am weak.
It was easiest to go back to what I knew then to jump into the unknown at one of the lowest points of my life.
So I did. I went back.
I didn’t think it would be permanent but again, life happened. I did have a pretty big role in said life happening but it is what it is now.
Again I was weak.
Chose the path I know.
Hurt someone who I never wanted to.
They said less than a week ago that no matter what life had thrown at me they were willing to just add it to the craziness we could make together.
And now they are dating someone else and sorry if they are unavailable but hey, let’s be friends….
Umm.. No thanks..
I’m good on the friend front.
Plus I would expect way too much from them on the friend level because let’s be real here, I don’t consider said person a friend. If they ever had to touch me the connection we have would be instantly ignited. And I don’t feel like spending a lifetime faking that it exists or craving just any second of it I can get, that’s what happens when I am near him; I can’t touch/hug/hold him because my being craves for more, I push away or keep at a distance for fear of crawling into his lap and snuggling up. So I just stayed away. pushed the way I am oh so fucking good at.
And it worked.
He is dating someone.
And as text book as it sounds I am truly happy for him.
But I can’t and won’t fake a friendship with him.
Which leads me back to my question earlier… how do you respond to that person?
If I’m not friends them we are nothing.
And if we are nothing there is no reason to be in each other’s lives.
If he’s not in my life…. well, that just fucking sucks.
You see my conundrum?